Monday, July 04, 2011

Book Review: The Blessing - John Trent and Gary Smalley


The Blessing – John Trent, PH.D. and Gary Smalley
The blessing is a means of conveying unconditional love, acceptance, and approval to our children. It can be applied to all of our relationships: spouses, extended family, friends, co-workers, church family, and classmates.

All children grow up desiring unconditional love, acceptance, and approval from their parents. If they do not receive it clearly conveyed by meaningful touch, spoken message, attaching high value, picturing a special future, and active commitment, they spend the rest of their lives seeking approval from other relationships in unproductive ways.

The book breaks down the issues that develop in the lives of children who grow up in situations where the blessing is withheld or where parents choose to make their children try to earn the blessing. It also illustrates the power of words and power of the generational curse.

The book also provides solid, practical advice on intentionally provide the blessing in relationships to prepare children for positive relationships in their lives as well as practical steps for reversing the effects of not receiving the blessing in a person’s childhood.

John Trent and Gary Smalley provide suggestions on how to intentionally provide the blessing in life’s most difficult situations like divorce, death, desertion, adoption, and blended families.

This is a book that every parent, every adult that has not experienced parental approval, everyone that works with children, every small group leader, every children and youth worker, every pastor, every teacher, every employer, and everyone who values the relationships in their lives should read.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

2 comments:

Bill (cycleguy) said...

I read this years ago Allen and liked it a lot. It helped in my relationship with my two girls especially. Hope you are recovering from your trip.

Jack Riepe said...

Dear Allan:

The blessing I got from my mother was having her explain to mean that there was a right way and a wrong way to write a sentence. And that if I learned to write one the right way, people would read it and feel good. And that if I wrote one the wrong way, she'd kill me.

My mother once said, "My only regret in life was in teaching my son Jack to speak."

Fondest regards,
Jack/reep
Twisted Roads